About Rebecca

Rebecca Torosian is an intimacy behavioral therapist who has assisted dozens of men and women in overcoming a range of issues, from sexual shyness and inexperience to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Her Intimacy Behavioral Therapy ® Program, the only one of its kind, was developed out of her prior work as a certified surrogate partner therapist at The Center for Sexual Recovery in New York and decades as a mind body healing practitioner. Her practice is based on the belief that everyone already possesses what they need to create the lives and relationships they desire; she provides a method to help them manifest it, enabling them to access their authentic selves.

I’ve recently launched my YouTube channel. Here’s the direct link:


How I Work

With all my patients, I begin by establishing trust and building rapport that lessens anxiety. This is a gradual and integrative process that is both structured and in the moment; I gauge the appropriate pace based on the person’s specific needs. From there, I employ a variety of skills that teach new behaviors, replacing old “default” tendencies through practical physical application, coaching, and education.

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Who I Help

I work with men and women, gay, straight, bisexual and transgender. I assist patients in overcoming a range of issues, including:

  • Premature ejaculation
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Late virgins
  • Social/sexual shyness
  • Performance anxiety/lack of confidence and inexperience
  • Sexual shame
  • Trauma and disassociation from sexual abuse
  • Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD)
  • Body image

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What I Offer

There are three ways to engage my services:

  • A twelve-week Intimacy Behavioral Therapy program designed for those looking to do in-depth work. These are conducted in-person in New York City.
  • A sixteen-week Intimacy Behavioral Therapy program specifically designed to help those who are inexperienced, trauma survivors, as well as those who discover they need more sessions to fully accomplish their goals.
  • Ongoing therapy sessions to continue to address long-term and emerging intimacy issues and needs

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Senior Sex and the City

I was interviewed by Calliste Weitenberg as part of a segment for an Australian Documentary on SBS Dateline entitled “Senior Sex and the City”.  This is the clip of the show where I appear:,  If you want to see the entire half hour documentary:

4 Ways to Ring in the New Year at Home

I was interviewed by Alix Strauss from The New York Times on December 27, 2020 as an expert in my field about 4 Ways to Ring in the New Year at Home.


I came to Rebecca due to my fear and anxiety of intimacy. These feelings had caused me to avoid relationships, despite how much I wanted companionship. I was at a point where I thought I was beyond help.

Rebecca not only helped me to see that wasn’t true, she did it in the kindest and most comforting way. I made progress with her I did not think was possible, and I enjoyed it every step of the way. I felt comfortable with her and had complete trust in her from our very first session together. Her Intimacy Behavioral Therapy program helped me to learn so much about myself and what can be accomplished. Our work together has completely changed my life.

In addition, using the tools learned during our sessions have carried over into other aspects of my life, making me more confident than I’ve ever been. I am not sure I could ever truly repay her for what she has done for me. I could not recommend her more.

My fear of intimacy within myself and with others lead me to Rebecca. I was terrified to come out of hiding and show another my shame. Rebecca met me with care, compassion, and understanding. She guided me through the fear and uncomfortable feelings that led me to accept and understand myself and my intimacy issues.

I feel more comfortable with both my emotional and physical intimacy; this comfort has brought me to a deeper relationship with myself and the romantic relationships in my life. I’m no longer stuck and continue to grow emotionally as I take what I learned from Rebecca and the work that we have done together moving forward towards more fulfilling relationships.


Pornography’s effects

Recently, there was an article in The Economist on the effects of pornography entitled: “A user’s manual.”  In one section, they say that studies have found that there is little evidence that addiction is a real outgrowth of a daily pornography diet. I beg to differ. In my experience as an Intimacy Behavioral Therapist, I treat men (and women) of …

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