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About Rebecca

Rebecca Torosian is an intimacy behavioral therapist who has assisted dozens of men and women in overcoming a range of issues, from sexual shyness and inexperience to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Her Intimacy Behavioral Therapy ® / Surrogate Partner Program, the only one of its kind, was developed out of her prior work as a certified surrogate partner therapist at The Center for Sexual Recovery in New York and decades as a mind body healing practitioner. Her practice is based on the belief that everyone already possesses what they need to create the lives and relationships they desire; she provides a method to help them manifest it, enabling them to access their authentic selves.

Services

How I Work

With all my patients, I begin by establishing trust and building rapport that lessens anxiety. This is a gradual and integrative process that is both structured and in the moment; I gauge the appropriate pace based on the person’s specific needs. From there, I employ a variety of skills that teach new behaviors, replacing old “default” tendencies through practical physical application, coaching, and education.

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Who I Help

I work with men and women, gay, straight, bisexual and transgender. I assist patients in overcoming a range of issues, including:

  • Premature ejaculation
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Late virgins
  • Social/sexual shyness
  • Performance anxiety/lack of confidence and inexperience
  • Sexual shame
  • Trauma and disassociation from sexual abuse
  • Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD)
  • Body image

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What I Offer

There are three ways to engage my services:

  • A twelve-week surrogate partner program designed for those looking to do in-depth work. These are conducted in-person in New York City.
  • One-on-one phone consultations for people who cannot travel to New York.
  • Intimacy workshops aimed at helping people better understand and communicate with their partner.

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Co-Therapy

About Co-Therapy

An in-depth talk/touch co-therapy program

Rebecca offers this program with:  Sharyn Wolf, LCSW-R, an internationally recognized psychotherapist and relationship expert known for her clarity and warmth. She has twenty seven years of experience and books in eight languages.  With  hundreds of media appearances, as well as print, from Oprah to CNN, Wall Street Journal and The New York Times, she stepped away to devote her time to what she loves most; working with her patients in her Manhattan based private practice.

Can you identify with any of these?

  • Your body is in the bed, but your mind is somewhere else–observing
  • You think trauma or emotional problems are affecting your sex life
  • You have IMO (inhibited male orgasm), PE or erectile dysfunction
  • You’re a late bloomer or simply inexperienced
  • Your sexual/porn addiction has ruined real sex
  • Social Anxiety (insecurity, you hate your body, sweat) ruins intimacy
  • You’ve lost desire (whether medical or psychological)

If you resonate with any of the above, one thing is certain; in this hard wired world you have plenty of company. Yet, if you’re still reading, a small part of you still has hope.

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Press

Dirty, Sexy, Funny

Rebecca was invited to discuss her work on Jenny McCarthy’s Sirius XM radio show Dirty, Sexy, Funny.

True Life Special

British publication New Magazine features Rebecca’s life story, former work as a sex surrogate and current work as a behavioral intimacy therapist.

Testimonials

Rebecca changed my life with her Intimacy Behavioral Therapy. After experiencing unsafe touch, I spent years closed off from romantic relationships. I wanted to be open to touch, and I wanted to feel safe experiencing intimacy. Rebecca gently guided me through the different steps of receiving and giving touch. She knew, sometimes before I even knew, when I needed to slow down and let emotions come up. As I became more comfortable with intimate touch, I moved beyond tolerating touch to enjoying it. Rebecca helped me overcome issues of shame and self-consciousness. I can now experience pleasure while receiving touch, and I feel ready for a romantic relationship. Rebecca is a truly amazing woman. I will forever be grateful to her for her guidance, support, compassion, understanding, openness, and generosity.

I first contacted Rebecca because of relationship struggles. Not only did she help tremendously with those, she did so much more. Rebecca reinvigorated my sexual relationship with myself, my body and my wife. She is a warm and caring listener who is easy to open up to honestly, which enabled me to dig down into thoughts and feelings I had never before expressed. Rebecca’s advice was always educated, helpful, experienced and thoughtful: She has unique skills to understand people and help them in extremely positive ways. Rebecca was never judgmental or critical, and I found her experience with helping people to be invaluable. Our sessions were different from anything else I have ever experienced, and far more beneficial than I ever dreamed possible. I looked forward each week to both our conversations and hands-on therapy. While I felt saddened when they ended, Rebecca equipped me with tools that I continue to use and benefit from. I highly recommend her services to anyone struggling with a wide range of relationship, life, and sexual issues. Rebecca is simply the best.

insights

Pornography’s effects

Recently, there was an article in The Economist on the effects of pornography entitled: “A user’s manual.”  In one section, they say that studies have found that there is little evidence that addiction is a real outgrowth of a daily pornography diet. I beg to differ. In my experience as an Intimacy Behavioral Therapist, I treat men (and women) of …

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