About Rebecca

Rebecca Torosian is an intimacy behavioral therapist who has assisted dozens of men and women in overcoming a range of issues, from sexual shyness and inexperience to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Her Intimacy Behavioral Therapy ® / Surrogate Partner Program, the only one of its kind, was developed out of her prior work as a certified surrogate partner therapist at The Center for Sexual Recovery in New York and decades as a mind body healing practitioner. Her practice is based on the belief that everyone already possesses what they need to create the lives and relationships they desire; she provides a method to help them manifest it, enabling them to access their authentic selves.


How I Work

With all my patients, I begin by establishing trust and building rapport that lessens anxiety. This is a gradual and integrative process that is both structured and in the moment; I gauge the appropriate pace based on the person’s specific needs. From there, I employ a variety of skills that teach new behaviors, replacing old “default” tendencies through practical physical application, coaching, and education.

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Who I Help

I work with men and women, gay, straight, bisexual and transgender. I assist patients in overcoming a range of issues, including:

  • Premature ejaculation
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Late virgins
  • Social/sexual shyness
  • Performance anxiety/lack of confidence and inexperience
  • Sexual shame
  • Trauma and disassociation from sexual abuse
  • Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD)
  • Body image

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What I Offer

There are three ways to engage my services:

  • A twelve-week surrogate partner program designed for those looking to do in-depth work. These are conducted in-person in New York City.
  • One-on-one phone consultations for people who cannot travel to New York.
  • Intimacy workshops aimed at helping people better understand and communicate with their partner.

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About Co-Therapy

An in-depth talk/touch co-therapy program

Rebecca offers this program with:  Sharyn Wolf, LCSW-R, an internationally recognized psychotherapist and relationship expert known for her clarity and warmth. She has twenty seven years of experience and books in eight languages.  With  hundreds of media appearances, as well as print, from Oprah to CNN, Wall Street Journal and The New York Times, she stepped away to devote her time to what she loves most; working with her patients in her Manhattan based private practice.

Can you identify with any of these?

  • Your body is in the bed, but your mind is somewhere else–observing
  • You think trauma or emotional problems are affecting your sex life
  • You have IMO (inhibited male orgasm), PE or erectile dysfunction
  • You’re a late bloomer or simply inexperienced
  • Your sexual/porn addiction has ruined real sex
  • Social Anxiety (insecurity, you hate your body, sweat) ruins intimacy
  • You’ve lost desire (whether medical or psychological)

If you resonate with any of the above, one thing is certain; in this hard wired world you have plenty of company. Yet, if you’re still reading, a small part of you still has hope.

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Dirty, Sexy, Funny

Rebecca was invited to discuss her work on Jenny McCarthy’s Sirius XM radio show Dirty, Sexy, Funny.

True Life Special

British publication New Magazine features Rebecca’s life story, former work as a sex surrogate and current work as a behavioral intimacy therapist.


I found out about Rebecca online as I was searching for anything that would help with my anxiety and lack of confidence around my sexual performance, specifically premature ejaculation. I was going through a very painful breakup at the time, which was only compounding my issues. I had an introductory phone call with Rebecca, and found her to be very understanding and easy to speak to. She was confident she could help me, so I decided to go through with the 12 week program, which ended up being one of the best decisions of my life. Immediately, Rebecca made me feel comfortable and relaxed in our sessions. She passed no judgment, which eliminated any shyness and allowed me to be completely open with her. She quickly confirmed that my problems stemmed from anxiety, and designed a program to help me regain control over my own body. She gradually progressed through the program, and I began to see immediate results. The sessions, which I thought at first, may be awkward or uncomfortable, ended up being the highlights of my week because they were so helpful. By the end of the 12 week program, I was a completely different person. I had specific tools I could use, but more importantly she had helped me regain the confidence that allowed me to approach sex for what it should be; an intimate, pleasurable experience without feelings of anxiety. When Rebecca met me, I was undoubtedly at the lowest point in my life, and I will always remember her and thank her for what she did for me.

After finally getting the nerve to explore help for PE, I researched and found Rebecca. She is extremely knowledgeable and made me feel really comfortable throughout the entire process. I put my guard down, embraced her teachings, and in the end I feel I made tremendous progress. Given the sensitivity of the situation, I couldn’t have had someone better to help me learn more about and overcome PE. If you put your trust in her process, while remaining open and honest, you will receive the full benefit of what Rebecca has to offer. I’m so glad I took this leap of faith and sought help for such a private and sensitive issue – one that has impacted me for many years. I looked at my situation no different from any other time I have called a professional: Having problems with your plumbing at home? You call a plumber. Why wouldn’t you make the same investment with yourself?


Pornography’s effects

Recently, there was an article in The Economist on the effects of pornography entitled: “A user’s manual.”  In one section, they say that studies have found that there is little evidence that addiction is a real outgrowth of a daily pornography diet. I beg to differ. In my experience as an Intimacy Behavioral Therapist, I treat men (and women) of …

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