There are four ways to engage my services:
- A twelve-week intimacy behavioral/surrogate partner program designed for those looking to do in-depth work. These are conducted in-person in New York City.
- A sixteen-week intimacy behavioral/surrogate partner program specifically designed to help those who are inexperienced.
- One-on-one phone consultations for people who cannot travel to New York.
- Intimacy workshops aimed at helping people better understand and communicate with their partner.
Intimacy Behavioral Therapy™/Surrogate Partner Program (12 weeks)
The Intimacy Behavioral Therapy™/Surrogate Partner Program consists of twelve, one-hour, in-person weekly sessions in New York City. During this process, if it is determined that we need more time to accomplish your goals, we continue as needed—one or more sessions at a time. *For those with little to no sexual experience, I include one or two educational/informational sessions. (This takes us beyond twelve sessions – usually between 14-16 – depending on the needs of each individual).
The first session is a one-hour meet/greet and clinical intake that focuses on your personal sexual history.
In the next three sessions you learn foundation-building body awareness exercises to establish a solid understanding of sensation focused touch and how to access deep breath from the diaphragm. These are the fundamental tools for strengthening the connection between the mind and body and they will be utilized throughout the following sessions as new skills are taught and practiced in a safe environment.
The breath practice progresses to nonsexual touch exercises, helping you become present and in the moment with the sensations you are experiencing while giving and receiving touch. We discover together what default tendencies arise, so that they can be gradually replaced with new behavior. Some examples of these are; the discomfort of performance anxiety, self consciousness or fear of judgement, and how it affects your thoughts and feelings. We transition to more intimate touch interaction that directly addresses your specific issues. I call this application (in part) arousal navigation; developing the capacity to tolerate or “hang out in” varying levels of arousal. The overall goal is for you to overcome your challenges using these newfound skills with confidence, gaining the ability to directly apply them to your intimate life.
For people who do not live in New York City but travel here regularly on business, the program can be coordinated with your travel schedule – with the understanding that lasting results are best achieved through continuous application over a consistent period of time.
The 16 week version (for those who are inexperienced)
This is the same program that is offered above – just four weeks longer. Those who have very little or no intimate experience need more time to learn and discover their bodies’ responses before advancing to the next level of engagement. I also supplement the program with one or two sessions of sex education – on an as needed basis. In addition, this extended program is designed to address any sexual functioning problems that have already been identified.
I offer one-on-one consultations by phone for people who cannot travel to New York and are looking for referrals to resources in their area or to discuss a specific issue. *Please note that because of this therapy’s unique approach, my ability to refer is limited.
I offer two-hour intimacy workshops for small groups. Together in a safe and nurturing environment, people learn about specific emotional and physical blocks to intimacy and gain the communications skills and nonsexual techniques needed to help overcome them and better meet their and their partner’s needs. Workshops can be held wherever is convenient for the group — from clinics to a workshop participant’s home. *Please note that these workshops are only offered when there is a group (4-8) of interested participants.