Special Services:

An in-depth talk/touch co-therapy program

*Rebecca offers this program with:  Sharyn Wolf, LCSW-R, an internationally recognized psychotherapist and relationship expert known for her clarity and warmth. She has twenty seven years of experience and books in eight languages.  With  hundreds of media appearances, as well as print, from Oprah to CNN, Wall Street Journal and The New York Times, she stepped away to devote her time to what she loves most; working with her patients in her Manhattan based private practice.  *Note: Based on the initial phone consultation, Rebecca evaluates and suggests this (alternative) program if she feels it would be beneficial for the prospective patient.

Can you identify with any of these?

  • Your body is in the bed, but your mind is somewhere else–observing
  • You think trauma or emotional problems are affecting your sex life
  • You have IMO (inhibited male orgasm), PE or erectile dysfunction
  • You’re a late bloomer or simply inexperienced
  • Your sexual/porn addiction has ruined real sex
  • Social Anxiety (insecurity, you hate your body, sweat) ruins intimacy
  • You’ve lost desire (whether medical or psychological)

If you resonate with any of the above, one thing is certain; in this hard wired world you have plenty of company. Yet, if you’re still reading, a small part of you still has hope.

I’ve tried therapy 3 times. ..I’ve read books…nothing has worked

The integration of the newest neurological, scientific, physiological and psychological research has proven that many sexual problems cannot be solved by talking about them.  Even if you gain insight and understanding, even if you pinpoint the factors, even if you connect all the dots, for many the fact remains:

TALK THERAPY ALONE WON’T SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM

       Because the problem isn’t stored in the thinking part of your brain 

If we could think our way out of big problems, no one would have any. Yes, talking is part of the solution. Talking will teach you about your brain and how to become attuned to your body.

How is this approach different?

Rebecca and Sharyn (www.sharynwolf.com) spent more than a year brainstorming ways to integrate their decades of experience with recent scientific discoveries to bring about mind/body sexual healing. They worked to create a kind of program that couldn’t have existed before; a triadic model (3-way therapy team) where your commitment is an essential requirement. With you on board, the action begins.

In 12 weeks you will learn:

  • A stress-free relationship with your body where you take charge
  • Natural, organic responses, even if you haven’t had them for decades
  • Gratitude where you once felt hopeless

Many, who thought there was no help, have been helped. This is sex therapy as you’ve never seen it before.

How long will this take?

While it is true that we are each unique in our histories, our learning style, and our pacing, the program offers definitive turning points that fit most.

The First 4 Weeks:  This is Boot Camp where you learn, absorb and adapt the basics–new ways of experiencing your body and regarding how it is working. You will meet separately with Rebecca and Sharyn in their respective spaces, building rapport and trust. You will soon feel that you are “gotten.”   Rebecca’s website page entitled “What I Offer” under the Services tab describes how this time is spent.  With Sharyn, though it sounds daunting, many clients actually find relief in doing a complete assessment. You will be deconstructing your physical/family history, relational dynamics, Attachment Theory, Brain Science, Mind/Body awareness, and the stories you bring in including, most importantly, any trauma you’ve experienced. Some patients have suggested she’s a mind reader because she seems to understand a lifetime from a few details.

The Second 4 weeks:  With Rebecca, you will be using the new behaviors you have learned with increasingly intimate touch as you replace your habitual default tendencies (fight or flight) with new skills/tools that have been practiced, learned, and absorbed. Her confidence and calm presence will support your confidence and calm presence. Without fear of judgment, without anxiety, without self consciousness, you will soon imagine yourself outside her office, bringing what you know into experiences of your own.

With Sharyn, your course will vary, depending on where you are.  However, you won’t be on long archaeological digs repeating the stories you’ve told over and over again, unless you want to.  Through deep relaxation, mild hypnosis, bi-lateral stimulation and somatic experiencing (which allows your body and your past to tell you what they need), you will target your negative beliefs about yourself that are held deep in your brain and you will use these methods to actually loosen and begin to override them with new optimal neural networks that you will build out of your learning, repeating and integration.  You will begin to experience Brain Change.

The Last 4 Weeks:  With Rebecca, you will fine-tune your tools as you focus on your specific issues. The two of you will work through the last of any blocks, practicing, as you polish skills in a zone of a relaxed confidence. With Sharyn, you will be installing more positive changes into your brain—permanently.  Science has proven this is possible over and over again. And, if your situation is complicated and you have other areas you wish to explore, you can decide, if you want, to do that.

A Final Note: Some candidates may discover that they need more time. If so, you will know this by your 8th session. At that time, we can consider additional sessions on an as needed basis. Most importantly, you will know exactly where you are long before the program is over.